Wednesday, August 15, 2012

If I could tell my younger self something, this is what I would say.

"Stay in school and get your degree. The boy you think is perfect isn't and there will be so many others; so respect yourself enough to say no and move on. Trust your instinct even when you don't want to. Take care of yourself physically, mentally and emotionally. For the love of God make him wear a condom! USE more sunscreen and DON'T ever smoke! In a few years you're going to be a mom, a very young mom. Choose your actions carefully.

The next man will break your already fragile heart but don't worry, you'll come to realize he's only trying to spare you any additional pain because he cares enough about you to leave.

The man you decide to marry, because of the decisions you've made, will not be your husband for long. Stand up to him, be strong in your beliefs and above all put the needs of your children first.

Life is going to be tough for awhile, very tough. You'll go through periods of depression, debilitating anxiety and life threatening surgeries. Don't be worried; you'll get through all of it. You'll be scarred, both physically and emotionally but it will be okay. They will be reminders to you of how far you've come.

You will lose someone very dear to your heart. Someone who's taught you more about love and life then you could ever imagine. This too will be painful but you'll be okay.

Be kind to to others even when they're less then kind to you. How you treat them is a reflection of the kind of person you are so might as well make it a good one.

Above all, LOVE yourself! Love every part of your imperfect body. Love the parts that will sag, roll and jiggle; but also the parts that are adorable and still attractive. You are loved by so many and you will continue to succeed throughout your life. I know how stubborn you are and you always will be. Choose wisely my dear young self and trust in the Lord because you will be given a strength that nothing on this earth can match. Believe me, you will question him, a lot! Trust me when I say there is a greater reason; even if it's a reason that you never fully understand.

Lastly, Hang in there, know your limits and don't forget to live each day as if it were your last!"

Signed,

You at 33

5 comments:

  1. Every one of those things tested your strength and built you up to who you are now. Knowing what's coming would make so many things harder. We have to make mistakes to learn. And as you said, you got through it. Without the advice you'd like to give.
    You are amazing and strong. Even when you don't know it!

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  2. Wonderful!! Brought tears to my eyes, and it's something I really needed to hear! Thanks for sharing this.

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